Are you the kind of person who won’t be happy until you’re in a relationship? Is your life on hold until you meet your soul mate, or whoever your next partner is?
How many weeks, months or years are you wasting of this precious life by not being happy right now? And just how likely are you to settle for the next person who seems like a fairly good match, just because you hate being alone? Loneliness can make you desperate, if you let it. Desperation can land you right in the middle of a relationship that isn’t healthy or fulfilling, and then the fear of being alone again will keep you stuck there. Where’s your happiness then?
I have had a few conversations recently with singles who are dating in Norwich, and I have been surprised to discover just how many ‘know’ they won’t be happy until they are in a relationship. Of course, if you know you won’t be happy, and you’re pretty much determined that you won’t be, then you won’t!
Do you think happiness just happens to you, magically at the point when everything that you’ve been hoping for or planning just falls into place? Have you considered, just maybe, that being happy is a choice?
Yes, being in a healthy relationship brings a wonderful new dimension to your life, it increases happiness and well-being, but it’s not your whole life. Don’t wait for your happiness to start. Find it now. Discover what makes your heart sing, and do it often. Discover your life’s purpose and start working towards actually honouring it. You are at the heart of your world, and your connection with a potential partner begins with your relationship with yourself. You only have 1 life. Don’t be afraid to live it.
By Judith Flowerday, matchmaker, life and relationship coach at Norwich Elite Matchmaking.
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