Elite Matchmaking for Norwich & Norfolk.
Your personal dating advisor.

Elite Matchmaking for Norwich  Norfolk, your personal dating advisor.

Contact Judith on 07769 256740

How Does A Matchmaker Work?

So, you’ve finally got over your break-up i.e. you’ve moved away from analysing every detail towards acceptance, learning and growth. Either that or you’re wanting to move your focus onto dating after a long period of concentrating on another area of your life such as your career. Whichever it is, you woke up this morning and decided: ‘I have a good life and I’d really like to share it with someone else.’ The frustration of being ready is knowing what to do about it. It can bring about an anxious feeling of all those possible matches existing in the world but not knowing where to start to find them.

Many online dating platforms will certainly show you who’s available in your area and some even use personality testing to see who you’d best match with. However, with computer algorithms making the matches and there not being a real person to mediate, your personal information will be made public. In some cases, this can lead to disaster because there’s more opportunity for people to bend the truth about who they are and no one to pick up on it.

At Norwich Elite Matchmaking, I meet each and every person accepted on to our database. This way I can make sure all my clients are serious about dating and are who they say they are. It goes further: I get to know them. It’s my aim to build up a supportive relationship with everyone I work with. What makes you tick? What are you looking for in a relationship? What do you like to do in your spare time? Empowered with answers such as these, I use my years of experience to find the perfect match for you.

When I meet you I also find out if there’s any other support you need. Through myself and my partners we can offer relationship coaching, hair, beauty and style advice so you’re as well prepared for dating as possible. I tailor our service to your specific needs so you can use as much or as little as you require.

Once I’ve built up a rapport with you, I enter your details into my confidential database. As soon as we’ve met, I’m already mulling over who you’d match with. Even if it gets me up in the night for one of those lightbulb moments, I’m happy to do what it takes to get the right match for you. I don’t just send your match’s details by email or post, I tell you my thoughts on the match i.e. why I think it’s a good one as I believe it’s important to give a personalised opinion.

When I send out your match’s profile I try and give you just enough information to decide if you’d like to meet them. I find that sometimes factors such as age can initially put someone off a potentially good match so I’ll give you an age range for the best possible chance of success.

If both parties agree to a meet up I provide mobile numbers as a secure way to set up a date. With security being a priority, I use mobile numbers as they can be blocked should the worst happen and someone act out of turn. In my experience this has never happened due to my careful vetting process but it’s better to be safe than sorry.

So, you go on the date and to your absolute delight you’ve met the partner of your dreams. My support doesn’t stop there because I believe that keeping love is often trickier than finding it. When you’re in a new relationship, or even further down the line I offer coaching, support and guidance should you need it.

Norwich Elite Matchmaking offers a secure, supportive, dating consultancy aiming to give you as little or as much help required throughout your journey of finding love and keeping it.

To find out more about the unique Norwich Elite Matchmaking journey, contact Judith Flowerday on (+44) 7769 256740

 

Written for Norwich Elite Matchmaking by the talented copywriter, Catherine Sellars

catherine@splendidscribe.com www.splendidscribe.com

Dating? Stop Faking It!

Do you fake it when you’re dating? I don’t mean in the bedroom, ladies… I mean trying so hard to be attractive, witty, intelligent, desirable that you end up portraying a version of yourself that simply doesn’t exist in the real world. If you’re naturally a bit of a good-time girl (or guy), do you put a lid on your natural exuberance and pretend to be well behaved and house trained?   Why? No, seriously, why would you do that?   It’s time to stop faking it.   Think about it for a moment. You start dating somebody you really like and the relationship becomes serious. Great! Not so great though if you have to carry on being this other person you’ve been pretending to be since you first met! That’s exhausting. And stressful. And potentially a relationship killer once your partner finds out that you’re not the person you pretended to be.   Lying. That’s how it will come across.   I will admit to being nastily amused when I witnessed a lady who had pretended to be vegetarian being caught red-handed eating a burger by her fiance. It wasn’t the meat-eating he dumped her for. It was the manipulation that he felt she had done to him, and the lies.   I understand why you do it. You want to make a good impression. But don’t let that impression become your fake reality. An alternative version of you.   The opposite is just as bad. That slobbish or arrogant, “They’ll have to take me as they find me” mentality. The one where you deliberately refuse to make any effort at all? The one where you sometimes go out of your way to be obnoxious or outrageous? That is childish and lazy. You deserve somebody equally as obnoxious if this is what you do.   What’s the alternative to faking it?   Be authentic! Yes, be yourself. Totally, unashamedly you.   If you’ve hidden behind a mask for a long while, this new level of honesty will be a shock for you. You’ll feel naked. Nowhere to hide. Maybe you won’t feel very confident. But then what? Well, there’ll be no pressure to ‘perform’, no stress, no fear of being caught out. The person you’re dating will actually be dating the real you! We all get more comfortable as we get to know each other more, but you’ll still be the real you. How refreshing! Want to give it a go?   Good luck!   If you need a little extra support, get in touch.   By Judith Flowerday

Smile. Your Best Dating Accessory

                        What’s your best dating accessory? When you are getting ready to go out, I’m guessing you focus on what clothing, jewellery, make-up, handbag and shoes you will wear? You maybe try different outfits on until you find the look that you think suits you best, that makes you feel most confident, and will make the right impression on the person you are meeting. That’s great. You need to make a bit of an effort, for sure.   But you know, THE most attractive thing you could choose to wear is a smile. Not a fake, forced, nervous smile, but a warm, genuine one. This kind of smile generally comes from inner confidence, and feeling comfortable in your own skin. Yes it’s true that we judge somebody pretty much instantly, so the rest of your appearance is important, but a smile will shine brighter than anything else you could dress yourself with. I’m not suggesting you spend the whole date grinning like a Cheshire cat though!   Don’t just save that smile for dates though. Share it! Smiles cost nothing, and yet they can really brighten somebody’s day. Be generous.     By Judith Flowerday.   Thank you for taking the time to read this blog. I hope you have found it interesting or useful. Feel free to share it! You may also like to download our ‘Dating Guide’. You can get yours by signing up in the box on the right of  the Home Page here.